Ideals, Beliefs & Pictures
In our first blog in this series, I posed the questions – do we buy things to keep up with the latest trends, or do we buy to honour our own personal style? And do we buy things that support us or do we buy things that purely look good?
My feeling is that for most, our purchases are being driven by external influences and not as a true honouring of ourselves.
I recently had a woman selecting jewellery from my stall at a market. She was very taken by the silver items but kept moving back to the gold. She then mentioned that she had always preferred silver jewellery but her partner preferred gold. As a result, she had started wearing both.
Not an uncommon occurrence – and in situations similar to this, it would also not be uncommon for the woman to start wearing only gold. How many times have you heard a woman say “I really want to get my hair cut but my husband/boyfriend/partner prefers it long”? I’ve heard it more times than I would care to recall and I’m pretty sure I’ve once said the exact same thing.
Our choices on what we wear and how we wear it are being constantly influenced by everything and everyone around us. Our look or style – be it glamourous, understated, chic, casual, sporty spice, grunge or ‘I really don’t care what I look like - look how much I don’t care! See these baggy clothes that don’t fit me properly, that’s how much I don’t care’ – is all to either meet the expectations of the world around us, or to challenge it.
We then take on these expectations and add this together with other life events, situations or circumstances we form beliefs, values, opinions, ideals, pictures and images 'of our own' about who we are, how we should be and what we should look like. This is all then directly reflected in our choices of what we wear and how we wear it. And indeed, how we present ourselves to the world.
So where are we in all of that?
My feeling is we are buried somewhere underneath it all. Itching and busting to come out of it all. Desperate to feel, and live connected to, the true woman (or man) that we are. Busying ourselves and keeping ourselves distracted from feeling the emptiness that results in not living in connection with ones self.
In Part 3 we will look at how we can support ourselves to live truer to ourselves, establish a connection with ourselves, what that could look like and what might possibly come from that.